Someone asked me if I would ever forgive a certain group of people for what they did, and tried to do to me. Someone was shocked when I replied "I forgave them a long time ago.. I just haven't forgotten what they did, and will never allow or trust them to be in such a position to do the same thing again."
There is a world of difference between forgiving and forgetting. I forgive my mother for being abusive, neglecting etc etc. But I have had nothing to say to her for almost 7 years now. I did try to reconcile a few times, but she went right back into her controlling and bullying. Sorry, been there, done that, had huge counciling bills to prove it. There is the point where banging head against the wall because it will feel good when you stop is just self delusion.
So yes, I forgive them, but I will not forget.
There is a world of difference between forgiving and forgetting. I forgive my mother for being abusive, neglecting etc etc. But I have had nothing to say to her for almost 7 years now. I did try to reconcile a few times, but she went right back into her controlling and bullying. Sorry, been there, done that, had huge counciling bills to prove it. There is the point where banging head against the wall because it will feel good when you stop is just self delusion.
So yes, I forgive them, but I will not forget.
