Two people, with no warning deleted me from friends list. After all that posting, and no arguements, just lowered the boom. Makes me wonder what happened. No clues as to why. Damn, and I liked the stuff they wrote about.
I've noticed that happening to other people, too. In some cases people just felt their friends list was too big, they couldn't keep up with everyone's postings. Some found their interests drifting in other directions.
You might leave them in your friends list for awhile, just in case it was an accident, or that they change their mind again. I've been unfriended twice, once by someone who announced they were pruning the list to a core group, and once by someone who announced they were trimming off all the people making too many political postings. The second has refriended me, now that the elections are well past.
That didn't used to be such a big deal, but with the trend to friends-only journals it seems to be defeating the purpose of on-line journals/blogs. More so because of the different ways you can configure the visibility of postings in your journal, screening classes to prevent disruption while still not blocking out people. If everyone went to the closed, 'tell my why you're cool enough that I should friend you' type of journal, it'd pretty tough to meet anyone new.
but with the trend to friends-only journals it seems to be defeating the purpose of on-line journals/blogs.
Yeah, this Friends only not only defeats the purpose of a weblog, but it turns in into highschool cliques. I kind of outgrew that behavior when I was about 12. And I think some people are just too lazy, or don't know, about setting up friends groups, to screen who sees what.
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Date: 2005-10-20 10:26 am (UTC)You might leave them in your friends list for awhile, just in case it was an accident, or that they change their mind again. I've been unfriended twice, once by someone who announced they were pruning the list to a core group, and once by someone who announced they were trimming off all the people making too many political postings. The second has refriended me, now that the elections are well past.
That didn't used to be such a big deal, but with the trend to friends-only journals it seems to be defeating the purpose of on-line journals/blogs. More so because of the different ways you can configure the visibility of postings in your journal, screening classes to prevent disruption while still not blocking out people. If everyone went to the closed, 'tell my why you're cool enough that I should friend you' type of journal, it'd pretty tough to meet anyone new.
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Date: 2005-10-20 12:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2005-10-20 01:32 pm (UTC)No, I didn't. Wasn't sure I would like the answer. I could understand if they had posted something to me about it.
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Date: 2005-10-20 01:34 pm (UTC)Yeah, this Friends only not only defeats the purpose of a weblog, but it turns in into highschool cliques. I kind of outgrew that behavior when I was about 12. And I think some people are just too lazy, or don't know, about setting up friends groups, to screen who sees what.